The Top Five Guaranteed Ways To Never Get Through Cheating Within Marriage

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Every marriage has its share of peaks and valleys but few things are as devastating like finding out that your spouse was carrying on an extramarital affair. You just cannot bring yourself to believe this person you trusted and promised to share everything with would do something so terrible.

Then comes the stage where you have to decide whether to stay married but more importantly start the process of recovering from the affair. It's not going to be easy of course yet if you want to ensure healing never takes place then simply complete the following:

1. Continue To Keep Feeding The Pain

You hate what your spouse did so you go the extra mile to continue revisiting it over and over. All of the the negative thoughts and feelings which you ought to be dealing with in order to eradicate are put on a non-stop tape loop in your mind. Any time it looks as though it will disappear you make sure to throw some more fuel onto it by picking a fight with your mate or by grabbing hold of your favorite negative image and giving it great deal of thought until it runs on cruise control.

2. Continually Asking Yourself Why?

You sit down and think about this question every chance you get. Even when the spouse tells you exactly why they did what they did you keep asking. It's not that you want an answer . It's more like you cannot bring yourself to accept what happened and begin your healing process.

3. Plotting Revenge

Your spouse had an affair therefore you will certainly make them regret it if it's the last thing you do. And then what happens? You devote all of your time and energy trying to figure out methods to make sure they feel the pain you are feeling but the goal will be to cause them to feel it a lot worse. The problem is retribution is not just of waste of time but also an exercise for losers. If you really feel that strongly about what they did then go ahead and file for divorce. And even with this it's best not to practice a scorched earth policy.

4. Sharing with Everybody

You turn into a  blabbermouth and broadcast to anybody and everybody what your spouse did. This happens all the time now. You cannot help but do it every time you converse with someone. All this accomplishes is make sure the marital affair stays in the center ring. Just remember not everybody needs to know what's going on in your personal life and furthermore you cannot get on with your life as long as you rehash it again and again.

5. Keep It Inside

At the opposite end of the spectrum you do not share anything with anyone. No counseling, no support group. Truth be told you do not even discuss it with your mate. What's done is done and you just wish it would all go away. That's not going to happen until you take concrete steps in order to ensure it does occur and a  big portion of that is communicating with the right people.

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This article was published on 2012/04/07
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